One thing that has literally changed my entire life was working on my mindset and I’m still doing it every single day. So in this post, we are going to talk about 3 mindset shifts that have the power to change your life. When you currently think that mindset shifts cannot help you with creating your dream life, then remember this:
Your thoughts create your feelings, your feelings create your actions and your actions create your reality.
Before we start with the 3 mindset shifts, I want to show you some ways how you can work on your mindset:
Methods to work on your mindset
- Journaling and writing down affirmations
- Consuming (written, audio and video) positive and empowering content
If you want to create a more positive mindset, an important thing to know is that it usually doesn’t happen overnight. However, when you’re consistent and create more and more self-awareness, you will catch yourself thinking negative thoughts and can then change it. You can for example take this belief, transform it into something positive and repeat it in your mind. What you tell yourself on a daily basis does matter and when I catch myself, I do the following:
Let’s say I create something and end up sabotaging myself by thinking that it’s not good enough yet to put out there. In this case, I would tell myself the simple phrase “Done is better than perfect” and it already helps a lot. If I had waited for everything to be perfect, this blog would not exist. Jay Shetty also said something interesting in a podcast interview. He said that he always releases content when it’s 75% ready because otherwise he wouldn’t release anything and therefore wouldn’t be able to move forward. I took this to heart and maybe it helps you the next time you criticize your work for not being “perfect” enough.
So here are the 3 positive mindset shifts that will change your life:
1. Shift from “I don’t have enough” to “I always have more than enough”
Who hasn’t been there? Society and especially advertisement perpetuates this belief of not having enough and not being enough.“Want to be worthy and confident?” Buy this make-up palette.” It’s so helpful to shift your mindset to abundance, in all areas of life. Focus on what you already have because you really are an abundant being. What you focus on, expands. It’s one of the laws in this incredible universe.
If you focus on what you don’t have, you will never have enough, but when you focus on what you already have, you will always have more. Thereby, you create even more abundance in your life. Start being grateful for your apartment, for your health, for your car, for being able to travel, for your food, for your amazing friends and family, for your partner,…There are so many things to be grateful for.
You might also like: 100 Things to be grateful for
Here are some of my favorite affirmations for more abundance:
-I am a magnet for money
-I always have more than enough money
-For every dollar I spend, I get it back 3 times
2. Shift from “Everything has to be perfect” to “Done is better than perfect”
We can sometimes really be so hard on ourselves and be our own worst critics. Remember that there is no such thing as perfection and that it also lies in the eyes of the beholder. If you tend to be perfectionistic, it’s because you are actually scared of rejection and not being good enough. We basically try to protect ourselves/our egos from judgement by doing everything as “perfectly” as possible. The problem here is that this mindset is holding you back in life because you become afraid of trying out new things.
Close your eyes and imagine where you would be and what you would do differently if you adopted a “Done is better than perfect” mindset? It literally makes life so much easier when you focus more on creating value for others than on protecting your ego. Isn’t it what we’re here to do? To leave this world a better place than it was before?
By letting your ego get in the way and not doing things, you’re actually acting in a egotistical way. The world needs you and whatever message you have to share. Whether you’re good at singing, dancing, cooking, writing or helping others–whatever it is, the world needs you. You are good enough and I believe in you.
Here are my favorite affirmations for overcoming perfectionism:
-Done is better than perfect
-My worth does not depend on my work
-I don’t need other people’s approval
-I share my gift with the world. It doesn’t have to be perfect as long as it adds value to other people’s lives
3. Shift from “I have to be liked by others” to “The most important thing is that I like myself”
I think that this is one of the most important mindset shifts and certainly one that can change your life. So many people act like somebody they’re not because they are scared that putting their raw and authentic self out there might lead to rejection. There are two main problems with this mindset.
1. You make your own happiness dependent on other people
By wanting to be liked all the time, you make yourself dependent on others and their judgement of you. This means that you could be emotionally stable, happy and feeling like you’re having an amazing day but as soon as someone says something negative about you, it’s over. You crumble and start doubting yourself and this is what makes this mindset so fragile and unhealthy.
2. It’s not only impossible to be liked by everyone, it’s exhausting
Honestly, even if you want to, you cannot please everyone anyways. Playing a role for people and being someone you’re not, will eventually always take a toll on your mental health. By basically being a different version of you for everyone you meet, you might end up losing yourself and don’t know who you are anymore at your core. Being yourself is so much easier and sustainable.
Overcoming the fear of rejection
However, if your subconscious mind is already conditioned to please everyone, it will of course not be easy in the beginning but so worth it. The only way to overcome the fear of rejection is to take action anyways, even when you’re scared. Then, practice it again and again.
You can start with small things here. For example, when you’re very self-conscious about your appearance and the things you wear, you could ask yourself the following while buying a new item: Instead of “Will they like it?”, you ask yourself “Do I like it?” If you like it, it’s already enough and you should wear it.
When I started to focus my mindset more on “The most important thing is that I like myself”, amazing things started to happen.
This is the result of the mindset shifts I went through:
-I became much more confident
-I stopped overthinking about unnecessary things
-I became more daring and willing to try out new things
-I started to love myself and became more compassionate with myself
-I became my authentic self and went through some massive deconditioning
-I found my purpose in life and I’m so happy to be living it every single day
Of course, these mindset shifts didn’t happen overnight. It took more than two years and it’s an ongoing process. I think with personal development you can never say “Okay, I know everything now”. You keep growing and learning new things every single day, while becoming more and more who you truly are → your higher self.
My favorite affirmations for more self-esteem and self-love are:
-I love myself unconditionally
-I am strong and achieve everything I set my mind to
-I embrace my authentic self with all my quirks and the personality traits that make me the beautiful person that I am
Thank you so much for reading! I hope that you can apply some of these mindset shifts to your own life. Let me know in the comments which mindset you currently have and what you would like to work on. Even though beliefs can be deeply ingrained into us, we always have the power to change them.
Q: What are some of your limiting beliefs that you are currently working on? Feel free to share in the comment section below.
I’m sending much love to you
Caye-Lexia HunterMarch 9, 2022 at 2:51 pm
Hey, This has provided the insight I needed to continue this journey, I’m currently trying to unlearn the “Everyone comes first” mindset. Especially setting boundaries with relatives as it relates to negative approaches towards me. Any tips?
JenniferLionNovember 29, 2022 at 2:55 pm
Hi Caye 🙂 I think when it comes to setting boundaries with family, the most important step is to deeply acknowledge that you are allowed to set boundaries. Many people in this scenario think that it is somehow “mean“ to set boundaries with family when in reality, it is just being honest and expressing your needs as a person. People treat you the way you teach them to and when issues like this come up again, you can tell them how you feel by using statements such as “I feel___ when you do this and I want you to respect me, just like I respect you”. If someone still treats you badly and oversteps your boundaries after you did this, you can also tell them that you are no longer available for engaging in disrespectful conversations and spend less time with them. Setting boundaries in the beginning is hard (it was really hard for me too!) but once you stand up for yourself, it feels amazing. You deserve to be treated kindly and I wish you all the best <3